8 Ways to Make a Terrible First Impression

8 Ways to Make a Terrible First ImpressionYou know how important the first impression is. Thats why it can be really easy to screw it upeven if you only screw it up by trying too hard. Here are a few ways to really make a belly flop of your first impression. Study them and make sure to pivot in another direction googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) 1. Try Too HardWe know you want to be memorable. So do they. If youre too witty, too eager, too high energy if you finish your interviewers sentences or jump in too quickly with a personal anecdote or some sidebar to explain some aspect of your resume if youre generally just too RIGHT THERE rather than making an effort to listen to your conversation partner rather than perform then youre trying too hard. And whomever youre talking too is probably more tired than intrigued.2. Being Too DifferentIf youre laboring to point out your personal quirks in a transparent effort to platzdeckchen yourself apar t from the crowd, you might actually be doing yourself a disservice. Theres nothing wrong with being average or above average. You dont have to shout how unique you are at every conversational turn.3. Bad Body LanguageHow you carry yourself matters, too. Try not to cross your arms across your chest. Make sure to smile and make eye contactas failure to do both can make you seem hostile and untrustworthy. And whatever you do, be respectful of others personal space. Dont be the space invader.4. InappropriatenessDont gossip.Youll come off looking terrible. And dont make rude or inappropriate jokesparticularly off-color ones or potentially political or bigoted ones either. No one will want to get to know you better if youre rude or racist.5. RudenessIf you keep checking your watchor worse, staring at your phone the entire time, then you deserve to make a bad impression. Grow up. Put your devices down and be present for the five minutes it takes to make a good impression.6. OversharingDon t try to forge instant intimacy by sharing all the intimate details of your life. Your personal history should stay at least a little personal for the first 10 minutes of a new connection. And you never know when you might put your foot in your mouth because of not knowing anything about the other persons personal history. Also, you and this person have literally just met. How can you be sure theyre trustworthy?7. NosinessOn the other hand, dont ask a bunch of nosy personal questions to try and find out that other persons intimate personal history. Let that stuff happen naturally over time as the relationship builds. If you even make it out of the conversation with a relationship to build, that is.8. SteamrollingThis includes filling every silence with chatter and assuming the other person agrees with you about everything you say, and then ranting on and on about it. Take a moment to step back and give your conversation partners some space to speak. Try listening for once and dont b e too stingy to relinquish your spot in the drivers seat.

How This Student is Using Tech to Make the College Admissions Process More Equal

How This Student is Using Tech to Make the College Admissions Process More Equal When Omika Suryawanshi, a first-year student at the University of Virginia (UVA), joined scholar communities at her school, she welches torn by their lack of diversity. After discussing her communitys diversity problem with trusted advisors and peers, she realized the lack of free college admissions resources was a huge barrier to low-income students with university aspirations. With college students at various campuses, Suryawanshi launched The Admit List a community of collegiate scholars who provide free, remote college counseling to high school students.On top of her work with The Admit List, this computer science and American studies student is passionate about womens STEM education and civil rights. She was a Younger Leader of the Year finalist in the Women in IT Awards, sponsored by UNICEF, for her work with Leap Into Technology which she founded in 2016. We talked to Suryawanshi about her work w ith The Admit List and Leap Into Technology, dealing with imposter syndrome and how women can work to make their university spaces more diverse.How are you making an impact on your school or local community?There are a solid amount activities that Im involved with, both at UVA and back at home in Ridgefield, Connecticut. My latest passion project, which has the qualifikation to make the largest impact of all my endeavors so far, is The Admit List. The Admit List is a community of collegiate scholars from all walks of life coming together to offer low-income, primarily first-generation high school students with free, remote college counseling.Outside of The Admit List, I am involved with Leap Into Technology (which teaches middle school girls about applications of technology outside of programming), tutoring at a local high school and developing curriculum for a CS/Social Impact pilot at UVA.What made you passionate about the project or role thats allowing you to make a difference?I am fortunate enough to be a member of multiple scholar communities, but was torn by the lack of diversity in most of them. Through conversations with trusted advisors and peers, I isolated the general lack of information and resources available to low-income students as one of the largest contributors to the homogeneity. Just the idea of diversifying the educational system really excites me and pushes me to work harder on The Admit List.How did you get in this ort? Were you elected, selected, or did you start the project yourself? What steps did you take to fulfill this role?In November of 2018, a few other college students at various campuses nationwide and I decided that we wanted to make a change at all of our institutions. The Admit List is a product of our conviction and desire to give opportunities to students who dont know what is available to them.What other activities, projects, or jobs do you do at school? Spill your resumeIm a research assistant for a graduate dissertatio n about segregation academies throughout the South. I also host high school students visiting the University of Virginia, and am working with three other UVA students to launch a program that will ideally help close the achievement gap in Charlottesvilles K-12 system.What is an accomplishment youre proud of?Recently, my younger brother had to write a paper about an individual he admires and he wrote about me.What is a challenge that youve faced and overcome?Like so many other women nationwide, I deal with imposter syndrome. It might elendlage even be fair to say that Ive completely overcome it, but Ive worked hard to make sure that I dont let my insecurities about deserving to be somewhere keep me from achieving my goals.What advice do you have for women who want to make a difference at their school?Reach out to professors Reach out administrators Apply to grants College is this really cool, unique space where there are so many opportunities and individuals that are there for no oth er reason but to help you succeed, and not enough people take advantage of it. If theres something you want to change, reach out to the people around you. Odds are, theres someone that feels as passionate as you do about changing the status quo.Who is YOUR Fairygodboss? Why?My Fairygodboss is Claudette Colvin -- at the age of 15, she recognized discrimination and defied segregation laws almost a whole year before Rosa Parks. She acted decisively and with conviction to uphold her beliefs.Lightning Round Whats Your Karaoke Song?You Make My Dreams (Come True) by Hall and Oates.Lightning Round Whats Your Favorite Book?Free the Beaches by Andrew Kahrl.Lightning Round Whats Your Favorite Movie?13th.Lightning Round Whats Your Favorite Quote?Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. Barack Obama.Fairygodboss is all about celebrating female leaders so every other week, we celebrate a young woman who is making a difference in her school or loc al community. Do you know a student leader whos making an impact? Celebrate her and thank her by nominating her here.